An adolescent who locks himself in a room after school presents a communication challenge. What is the most appropriate initial action for the mother?

• A. Speak to son and ask what's wrong
• B. Lock the door to prevent exit
• C. Ignore
• D. Punish the child

Answer: (A)

Opening a calm, caring dialogue is the best first step. Approach your adolescent in a quiet moment, speak softly, and invite him to share what’s going on without judgment. By asking an open question and listening, you signal that you’re concerned, not angry, and you create a safe space for him to express his feelings. This helps you understand what’s weighing on him and whether he’s in distress or at risk, so you can respond appropriately.

Trying to force him to come out, locking him in, punishing, or ignoring the situation tends to heighten stress, erode trust, and make him withdraw further. If he does start talking, reflect back what you hear and stay patient—he may need time to open up. If you sense immediate danger or thoughts of self-harm, seek professional help right away.